We’re back safe and sound from our cruise. It was an amazing vacation. I went into it looking for fun with friends, some quality time with my husband, and some good food and wine thrown in for good measure. I got so much more out of it. The Caribbean is beautiful beyond belief. It brought peace to my heart just to look at the water.
Life is strange. I have been evaluating friendships and what they mean for the past few months. I have exactly two friends from high school that I still keep in touch with. None, zero, zip from college (unless you count my sister!), a handful from my first job out of college. Friends have become more meaningful, more important to me as I have grown older (hah…I sound like I’m 90!). The friends I have now, I definitely have stronger bonds with. I care about them more, I know them better inside and out. This past week was spent with friends. The laughter was the best kind of laughter….the kind that sends tears streaming down your face and leaves your sides aching for days. The conversation was great. The memories are cherished. I love creating history with friends…..the times shared, the little catch phrases from those times shared………The friendships I have developed here on SHARE are the same, albeit via the computer screen. The wonderful thing is that when you meet SHARE friends face to face, that history is there, those catch phrases are there, the thread continues in person.
When we first moved to San Diego, I was miserable. I had left my friends, my job, my church, my family behind. I was terrified of finding a new job, and that I would never find anyone that I would connect with. I met Jennifer when we bought our house. She lives across the street from me. As our houses were being built, we’d run into each other when we’d come to check on the progress. Two months after we moved in, we had a party. Jennifer and her husband came. We have been inseparable ever since. We were pregnant at the same time with our youngest children who are exactly three months apart. We scrapbook together, shop together, inspected preschools together, play bunco, hang out and let the kids play, commiserate, complain and whine together. She is one of my best friends ever. Through her, I have met many other friends, and she has given me the courage to seek out other friendships. She is, to say the least, awesome.
Life is strange. You think the friends you make when you are younger are going to be with you for life. Sometimes they are. I have become more selective about my friends as I’ve grown up. My friends now mean more to me than I can express. They build me up, they share my life with all it’s blessings, joys and sorrows, we share a history and a bond. And I thank God for them everyday.