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The end of an era

I think it’s finally arrived……the day when we say goodbye to cribs in our household for the last time. Ethan has learned how to climb out (and into) his crib. For his safety, I guess it has to go. Like every other baby thing, I was hoping he would stay in his crib for awhile longer yet. The thought of having to fight to train him to stay in a big-boy bed is not pleasant. Ryley did fairly well with the transition. Grace, however, was a nightmare. I just don’t know if I’m ready for this yet.

I did consider buying the crib tent to keep him in the crib for a few months longer. Hubby is adamantly opposed. And I wonder just how effective it would be. I’m not ready for him to be able to get out of bed and wander the house whenever he wants to. I’m not ready for him to be in a big boy bed. I’m not ready for him to move out of this phase. I’m not ready to say goodbye to cribs forever.

Yesterday, he didn’t nap at all because I put him down and then left for the grocery store. I guess within ten minutes of me leaving, he had climbed out and wandered downstairs. Daddy didn’t bother to put him back in. AAAAHHHHH!!! This afternoon, I put him down, and within twenty minutes, I heard some banging around up in his room. I walked in to find him in the middle of his floor, stacking his books. I know he is tired. I know he NEEDS this sleep. He will still consistently sleep for three hours in the afternoons, so I know the rest is required. But how to keep him getting it when he will not stay in his bed? So I rocked him to sleep this afternoon. Is this what I’m going to have to do for the next few months, every afternoon and night? I almost feel like I’m going backwards a bit to when he was a little baby and I would nurse him in his room before afternoon naps and before bedtime, knowing he would fall asleep and I would put him in his bed.

It’s been three years since the last time we went through the crib-to-bed transition. Honestly, I only have a vague recollection of how we did it. I do remember Grace just being awful about it, and it taking FOREVER to get her to sleep in the afternoon and evenings. Any suggestions? I need to be reminded on this particular step. THANKS!!!!

7 thoughts on “The end of an era

  1. I don’t have any advice, but lots of empathy. I too was so sad to see the last crib come down. It was so hard to think we wouldn’t ever have a crib again until grandchildren – which still is not the same. Good luck in this time of transition. Let us know how it’s going. Darcy

  2. Donna, I’m sorry, I don’t have any advice on this – but I wanted you to know that I will be thinking of you all as you get through this phase. Daisy has figured out how to stand up in the crib and scream, but thankfully has not figured out how to crawl out of it just yet. Hugs,
    Sam

  3. Ah… I know this is hard. But you’re probably right.. for safety’s sake.. a bed is probably best. Now.. we just have to convince your heart of that. AHHHH!! As for staying in his bed it’s anyone’s guess what works. The boys did great.. my girls.. AWFUL!!! I was told.. when we had trouble with the girls.. that it should only take 3-5 nights for them to get the message that it’s bed time when they are placed in their bed. I would say go the Super Nanny route.. as this what worked for us.
    Tuck him in, kiss night night.. lights out. If he gets out.. put him back.. stating it’s bedtime, and we stay in our bed. Each time he gets out after that.. simply put him back.. but don’t speak(THE HARD PART.. at least for me. Hopefully he’ll follow Riley’s lead, and my boys lead, and surprise you by staying in his bed. Good luck!! Hugs to ease that sad heart!
    Karri

  4. I am so happy that Ethan is in a big boy bed. I was hoping that he would be your happy medium until I finished your blog. I hope that it gets easier for you. Angi “Phoenix’s MoM’

  5. Donna, I’m just catching up with everyone. Back at work, eh? How’s that going? They must think you’re quite valuable in order to offer you such flexibility and income to support daycare, etc. It’s great to feel wanted and needed, isn’t it? As for this blog, Mickey was 2 1/2 before we converted his crib to a toddler’s bed with just the front rail off. That way he could climb in and out by himself. He’d climb in but would yell for someone to come get him out. He stayed there until he turned 3. Mickey transitioned well but then would want us to lay down with him. I don’t have any suggestions but I’ve heard what Karri mentioned really works. Good luck. ~Jaclyn~

  6. I remember being so reluctant to do the transition but it went surprisingly well. It wasn’t until my two were four that I had trouble with them staying in bed. I agree with Karri about the Super Nanny method, consistency (not something I’m good at) is the key. Good luck
    Kathy

  7. Oh Donna- I know how you are feeling! My Noey started crawling out of her crib- and wouldn’t take a nap, which meant that she was entertaining my other three- and they weren’t napping either!
    So- we went the tent route. Chad wasn’t excited about it either- but like you, I knew that she needed those 2 hour naps. No matter how many times I put her back in bed- she kept getting out. Mine are too little yet to understand that they need to stay in bed…so the tent was a good answer for us. She needed her sleep, and so did everyone else- and I knew that she would stay safe.
    Good luck with whatever you decide!
    Stacey PS- I found my tent at BabyCenter.com- it was the most reasonable there.

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