I find myself in a place we haven’t been in for a long while. It’s not a comfy place, and I really hate we’re here again. I am researching things, spending hours on Pinterest, reading articles and a million autism blogs, pulling out tangle therapy/zones of regulation/comfort box items.
We have a no-screens-during-the-week rule. That means no Netflix, no YouTube, no computer, no XBox, no video games. It’s a hard and fast rule. And I’ve been holding firm with all three. The older two, as I wrote a couple weeks ago, have their reality that Little Man gets his way frequently, doesn’t have the same rules as they, and that we give in to him all the time. I’m trying to be very mindful of that. But, one of his ways of decompressing his spending time watching his favorite YouTube-ers, working on Minecraft, or making his own videos for his YouTube channel. His days at school are so difficult right now, I’ve actually contemplated giving him half an hour of screen time when he gets home just so he can chill his own way. I don’t want to, because then I either have to let Big Man and Princess have the same, or enforce the no-screen rule for them and not Little Man. We know where that leads. Why do I fight this so much? I know what works for him, and it’s this. I also have this overwhelming need to be fair. Then add in the mommy-guilt of allowing screen time when every article you read says to avoid it? Gah!!!!! Stress!!!
How do you handle this in your household? How do you explain different needs to your NT kids? Or do you? Do I give them all the limited screen time? Or keep the rule as-is and encourage Little Man to find another way to decompress when he gets home from school?