When the Princess was a mere 18 months old, she threw herself down on the floor, kicking, crying, and screaming in her very first, I-didn’t-get-my-way, almost-two-years-old tantrum. I was stunned. She’d been so content and compliant before that. Feisty, yes, but an easy baby as far as personality was concerned. I looked at her in awe of her performance, for a performance it was. You’ve seen that video of the toddler who will stop crying, move to where his parents are, and then start crying again? Yeah, that was her. I started giving her scores on her tantrums, stepping over her to get whatever I needed, and leaving the room. She learned quickly mom wasn’t having it, although she still frequently gave it her best go. She was strong-willed, stubborn, and determined. I thought we were totally in for it, come the pre-teen and teenage years.
She’s remained strong-willed as she’s grown up. I’m actually happy about it. She stands up for those not being treated fairly. She stands up for herself. She advocates for herself. She makes herself heard when she needs to. She considers herself shy, but I don’t see it. I see a self-confident, determined, strong young lady. She won’t let anyone take advantage of her. Oh, I’m sure some boy is going to come along at some point and knock this all down a bit. She will have her heart broken somewhere along the way, and it will change her, but only for awhile.
I’m extremely proud of her will and determination, even if it meant dealing with those tantrums way back when, and the occasional snarkery that comes out now in the days of teenage angst. But I don’t worry as much as I might if she weren’t a strong-willed girl. She’s a tough cookie, that one.
If you have an almost-two-year-old girl, and she’s begun to throw herself down in over-the-top dramatics, take a deep breath, step over her, give her a score, and move on. Also, be happy, because she will settle down, but that will and determination…..it’s a good thing.