Little Man’s IEP normally falls the first week in December, smack in the middle of Nutcracker hell week, and right around the time of our wedding anniversary. The coordinator called me late in October, and asked if the week before Thanksgiving break would work. Uh, yep….way better than dealing with it/squeezing it in the midst of all the other madness. I somehow put it in the back of my mind, and it snuck up on me. Heck, this whole year has pretty much snuck up on me.
Sooooo….the Friday afternoon leading into the Thanksgiving break, and 1.5 hours before I was supposed to leave for dinner/drinks and the Sound of Music, I was sitting in the small conference room at Little Man’s school, with his team, for his annual IEP meeting. Joy.
We’d had our concerns this year. I believe I wrote about them earlier in the school year. But, as I’ve had happen at pretty much every single one of his IEP meetings, the team addressed any requests/issues we had before I had a chance to raise them. We are all on the same page, that of keeping him on the good, upward path he’s currently on, and getting him ready for high school. That conversation was a huge part of the meeting – what we need to do, what we need to be thinking about, the goals he has and how they’ll translate, what can be done to ease that transition.
He has two subject teachers this year, as well as a PE teacher, and then whomever is teaching the Elements class he chooses. That means he’s seeing at least four teachers a day. He is moving around from classroom to classroom, albeit in a much smaller setting than he’ll see in high school. I’ve met his teachers before – parent/teacher conferences were last month – but I didn’t really get a grasp of anything beyond his academics, and how much improved he is over last year overall, until the IEP meeting. They are both the perfect combination of compassion and understanding and the tough love he needs to show him the boundaries, limits, and push him a little bit. That was the big thing we were going to ask for – that they push him, get him to stay in the classroom as much as possible, keep him engaged in the lesson/group/activity as much as possible. They’ve already started doing that. He’s up to 99% as far as in-class time. Last year, I think he hovered at 65-75%. They don’t let him push the buttons he did last year to get his way. They’ve learned he will cry to escape a situation. They are both handling him brilliantly. I felt immensely relieved after talking with them and hearing from them in the meeting. They are both exactly what he needs this year.
Another big part of the conversation was getting him to participate in the IEP process. In high school, he is expected to be part of the meetings. They want full buy-in from him on his goals and needs. To get that, he needs to give input. Now, Little Man HATES hearing conversations about his differences, deficiencies, needs. He goes into meltdown, or lashes out, or shuts down completely. We’ve made a plan that next year, he has to come to the meeting with one goal for himself, and one question about high school, the IEP process, etc. Once he’s participated in that much of the meeting, he will be allowed to leave the room. We do know his limits.
Here’s my thing: as much as we’ve been thinking about prepping him for high school, his team has been thinking about prepping him for high school. It is a huge part of the conversation. I was SO relieved to understand they are on the same page in this regard. They care about him, the whole him, not just the academic him. They know him, what makes him tick, what helps motivate him and keep him on track.
Let’s just wrap it by saying the meeting went really well. I feel they are not just HIS team, but my team as well, that we are indeed working together to give Little Man the best education in the best environment for him. Bonus – the IEP meeting is done before Thanksgiving and all the madness December brings around here. AND I was one time to leave for the show.